It's late into the nights and I could not get my eyes to close for a good night sleep despite my eyes has been staring at my laptop's screen for more than 4 hours with the lights off.

I stumbled a really nice post by a very open minded lady in Singapore who openly writes about her life and sexuality at Ping.sg. She was writing about the real intention of guys buying drinks for girls in clubs and pubs - "Buy me a drink? Give you a lay!" She wrote part of the post in a very tactful manner by portraying 3 girls who almost got into trouble for inviting guys buying them drinks on purpose. Well, nothing bad happened but it should be a reminder to girls out there thinking that they are attractive and it's alright for them to use that as a weapon to trick guys into getting free drinks from guys. As the saying goes, there is no FREE LUNCH in this world.

Frankly speaking, at the time when I was still single, often when I went out drinking or clubbing with my buddy, he will always trying to 'hunt' for potential 'prey' of the night. Otherwise it wouldn't be a fun night. One of the tactic was of course to offer drinks. I'm not sure what girls are thinking. Are they thinking that guys offer drinks just for the sake of buying them drinks? There are always motives behind that offer. It's either to get laid or the very least is to befriend with the girls. Being a great hunter, my buddy always gets his fix for the night or many other nights because these girls became one of his girlfriends. Quite a number of them were naive girls whom he dumped after he was bored with them.

Well, enough said. Girls who are reading this just have to be extra careful.

Happy Birthday to Ping.sg. Congratulations to Uzyn and all those involved in Ping.sg! I just came back from the party. The party was a dull affair, apart from the socializing with some of the bloggers that I know and getting to know some new friends. I felt like being bored and awkward at many times during the party.

Why do I feel this way?

1. The party was delayed for about half an hour. Waiting can be frustrating. Delaying for 15 minutes are acceptable. Anything more than that are no good for the organizer's image.
   
2. The MCs looked and sounded LOST. At some points, they don't even know which award was to be presented during the award presentation. I'm not sure if they had prepared well or it was just meant to be spontaneous with "LA-ME" jokes (rinaz pronunciation of lame). But I did laughed at some of the jokes.
   
3. Bad organization of the party. I felt sorry for the sponsors - BAK2U and Advertlets. Sponsors who sponsor event was to create awareness and hope to interact with the participants in order to get quality feedbacks. But sadly, they did not get good response. Also, time slot for the sponsors were arrange wrongly. It was a very awkward situation just now when Josh Lim had to say that he felt bad luck because of the slot that he got to speak.
   
4. Non-responsive and tongue tied bloggers. I believe that many of those who attended just now was very good in expressing themselves with words, especially those nominated for the awards. They write good articles which never fails to entertain their readers. Sadly, almost all can only utter a "thank you" after receiving their awards. That's the only appreciation given to those who voted. I think many bloggers are better sitting in front of the computer with some exceptions like EastCoastLife and DK.

The list could go on a few more points. But, I think it's better left for you guys to think about it. I hope that you understand that I'm not criticizing anyone here. What I want to drive at was how the party was not organize well. Also the supposed closely knitted community of bloggers in Ping.sg could have contributed more to make it a livelier party.

Well, I think there are definitely more rooms for improvement in the future Ping.sg events. I hope to attend the next one, if there were any.

So, how do you find the party just now? How do you feel?

EASY v/s DIFFICULT

Easy is to get a place is someone's address book.
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this
Difficult to follow

Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings

A great article that I read this morning and gave me something to think about. Read on and I believe you would benefit from this principle too.

Discover the 90/10 Principle

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? ……….By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse.

You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

A man and his wife were in a court for their divorce case.
The Problem was who should get custody of the child.

The wife screamed and jumped up and said: "Your Honor. I brought The child into the world with all the pain and labor.

The child Should be in my custody. "

The judge turned to the husband and said: "What do you have to Say in your defense?"

The man sat for a while contemplating. ..then slowly rose. "Your Honor... If I put a dollar in a Pepsi Vending Machine and a Pepsi Comes out...

Whose Pepsi is it... The machine's or mine?"